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was 2006 and her girlfriend was performing on the ship. “I
got off in Seattle and went to the famous library. It was the first
time I walked into the LGBT section without worrying if anybody saw
me.”

A “gaycation” is often a mythologised aspect of LGBTQ+ culture.
It’s a coming-of-age affair or a hedonistic jaunt. Yet, identifying
as lesbian or queer, I’m sceptical. Last year marked 50 years since
the Stonewall Riots, and the idea of seeking liberation while
taking a segregated holiday feels at odds.

Non-heterosexual travellers will have been around for as long as
humans embarked on journeys, but it was only in 1973 that HE
Travel, the first openly gay-only tour operator, visited the Grand
Canyon. In subsequent decades, destinations such as Florida’s
Marlin Beach Hotel and the island of Mykonos
became associated with liberal sexual attitudes – typically among
men – leading to the 1983 creation of the International LGBTQ+
Travel Association (IGLTA).

Today, the LGBTQ+ market is among the fastest growing in the
travel industry, valued at around $218 billion. We’re more likely
to have a passport than our heterosexual counterparts and,
according to market research firm Community Marketing &
Insights, will spend 33 per cent more on holidays. By 2030, it’s
estimated there will be 180 million LGBTQ+ travellers
worldwide.

The market is not just expanding in numbers, but in offerings
that extend beyond Canal Street and Greenwich Village. R Family
Vacations caters to “non-traditional” families and lesbian travel
company Olivia welcomes “sisters” who enjoy entertainment by the
Indigo Girls and The L Word cast. Misterb&b orchestrates
homosexual home swaps while, at Walt Disney World Resort in
Orlando, Gay Days draw 150,000 people annually. With more than 200
festivals around the world, Pride is an obvious pull, but the queer
travel diary is peppered with dates such as the Gay Games or Bears
Week.

For Carl Hiehn of Out Adventures, such offerings can be a
lifeline for the LGBTQ+ traveller. “I’m very shy,” he admits. “In
Cambodia last December, I joined a group trip to Barcode [Siem
Reap’s most popular drag bar] and popped champagne with the queens.
I’d never have gone alone. It’s the best New Year celebration I’ve
ever had!”

The tourism industry has much to gain from chasing the pink pot
of gold at the end of the rainbow. The anacronym “DINK” – dual
income, no kids – is often bandied around in relation to same-sex
couples, and while it’s massively flawed, it highlights that at
least some of the community has economic clout. Meanwhile,
legalisation of same-sex marriage – beginning with the Netherlands
in 2001 – has spiked wedding-related travel among those in search
of the ticket to happily ever after. For holiday company Kuoni,
same-sex honeymoon bookings increased by 279 per cent between 2011
and 2016.

LGBTQ+ travellers are more than a commodity, however. A
pink-washed marketing campaign and a rainbow flag on the check-in
desk doesn’t cut it. Some travel companies are going the extra mile
to cement their allegiance by supporting local LGBTQ+ businesses
and training staff to avoid awkward conversations. No thanks, we
don’t want twin beds. In 2012, the “Stay Hilton. Go Out.” campaign
included a dedicated microsite and vacation packages and gave
financial backing to several LGBTQ+ events.

Such attitudes of inclusiveness and diversity are far more than
lucrative branding exercises; through them, the tourism industry
challenges homophobia on the world stage. For those in the global
North, it’s easy to view society through rainbow-tinted glasses.
Heteronormativity is dwindling down a generational scale. Research
by Ipsos Mori shows that 88 per cent of baby boomers identified as
straight compared to 71 per cent of millennials and 66 per cent of
Gen Z. Social media is giving a voice to the once unspeakable and
unspoken while, at a political level, there’s a trend towards less
discrimination and more rights.

Sadly, you can’t have a rainbow without a little rain. To paint
a positive picture is to gloss over the destinations where our
community is repressed. Consensual, same-sex relationships are
illegal in around 70 countries and punishable by death in places
including Saudi Arabia, Iran and Nigeria. There are many examples
of tourists falling victim to anti-gay sentiment, too. In 2014,
Brit Ray Cole was jailed in Morocco for four months for “homosexual
acts”; accusations have been levelled against Egypt’s police for
using Grindr to entrap users; in 2019 Toto Tours received death
threats after launching a 16-day LGBT trip to Ethiopia.

If places are anti-gay, should we stay away? When Brunei enacted
the flogging and stoning of gay men last year, George Clooney and
Ellen Degeneres called for a boycott of Sultan Hassanal Bolkiah’s
hotels – including
LA‘s Beverly Hills Hotel and Paris‘s
Le Meurice – while Virgin Australia cut ties with the state-owned
Royal Brunei Airlines. Two years earlier, some US states limited
government-worker travel to North Carolina after it passed a
controversial “bathroom bill” requiring transgender folk to use
restrooms corresponding to their sex assigned at birth.

Research conducted in 2016 by Virgin Holidays indicates that
two-thirds of LGBTQ+ British adults refuse to visit places with
unwelcoming attitudes towards their community. Yet of the people I
speak to, few avoid destinations with anti-gay legislation.
“Boycotts only serve to further isolate the LGBTQ+ people living in
those destinations,” says John Tanzella, IGLTA’s president.

It’s a sentiment shared by Dana Piccoli of Olivia Travel, who
met with some of Bermuda’s LGBTQ+ community in 2019, when the
island’s same-sex marriage legislation was in turmoil. “We took
over this huge bar with Olivians and local Bermudians who were
appealing the ban. It was a beautiful thing to be able to show our
support. LGBTQ+ people exist everywhere, not just in places that
are waving those rainbow flags to greet us. When we travel to a
place where LGBTQ+ rights are in question or outright discriminated
against, we are also there supporting our community.”

Government laws don’t always translate on the ground. In the
Maldives, an edict that homosexual intercourse can earn eight years
in prison or 100 lashes is largely ignored at resorts. Equally,
places with progressive legislation aren’t immune to homophobia.
The 2019 Spartacus Gay Travel Index shows that supposedly liberal
destinations – the US, Germany, Brazil – are worsening for LGBTQ+
travellers as the right wing strengthens. (By contrast, Portugal,
Sweden
and Canada are
great.)

In 2017, four years after same-sex marriage was legalised in
Brazil, the deaths of 445 members of the country’s LGBTQ+ community
were attributed to homophobia – a

30 per cent year-on-year spike – and a judge approved
psychologists’ use of gay conversion therapy. “Brazil must not
become a gay tourism paradise,” declared President Bolsonaro. It’s
in reaction to this disparate and disturbing cultural climate that
app GeoSure has been developed to collate real-time LGBTQ+ safety
ratings for more than 30,000 destinations worldwide.

Just as attitudes towards queer people and travellers vary, so
does the community itself. We can’t be stereotyped. As varied as
the rainbow flag, LGBTQ+ people sit across a spectrum of
generations, races, families, subcultures, tastes and
interests.

“We’ll let you in on a secret,” say Roxanne Weijer and Maartje
Hensen, the girlfriends behind travel blog Once Upon a Journey.
“The LGBTQ+ community is as diverse as straight people. Of course,
some gay men love to go to the beach in a Speedo and some lesbians
love camping and hiking, but there are gay women who like city
trips better and male couples who want to go off-grid.” The
“gaycation” isn’t one-size-fits-all. What unites us is a desire to
feel safe and welcome.

Two years ago, German-Dutch couple Karl Krause and Daan Colijn,
authors of A Couple of Men travel blog, joined a gay Mediterranean
cruise fuelled by glittering costume parties and cocktails.
“Everyone could be themselves without being judged,” they say.
“It’s sad that the LGBTQ+ community has to isolate to be free. We
want future generations to not have to identify as gay or book a
gay-friendly trip.”

Mark Twain wrote: “Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry and
narrow-mindedness.” As our world shrinks, the queer traveller is
not just a statistic in the tourism industry, but rather a driving
force in reshaping global attitudes and prejudices. Gazing into the
future, I hope that a gaycation will simply be a vacation. We don’t
want special treatment or all-LGBTQ+ enclaves; we want inclusivity
and normalisation. Love is love is love.